View Full Version : I'm back from vaca fellas...a new man
rockyjeep
12-01-2008, 07:41 PM
As most of ya'll know i proposed to my girlfriend at the beach this past tuesday, and thankfully she said yes.
i was kinda counting on that one :thumbsup:
Now here's something i didnt expect...or at least not so soon. The family (my side, not hers) has just gone wedding nuts over the past week! i just proposed tuesday, and i'm already suposed to be thinking of dates, times, invitations etc?! i just got home! we both agreed on simple, beach wedding in shorts and nice shirts (she wants to wear a dress) with close friends and family.
not getting cold feet or anything, just....i dunno....family is stressing me out i guess. is this normal?
Speed911
12-01-2008, 07:43 PM
Haha... sounds just like what happened with my mom and dad... and my grandmas
BTW: Congrats to you and you fiance Dave. I hope I'll be down there when y'all hve the wedding
DrLewall
12-01-2008, 07:53 PM
tell the family that thew date is Sep 17 2009..then you and her get married June 9th..that way the family will do all the planning and you'll already have the deed done and you'll be stress free..now what this abt you being a "new Man"..your'e not fooling us! No sir ree! Most of us have been where you are and we all know now that you are a "used man"!
JeepBSU
12-01-2008, 08:25 PM
Congrats Dave!
I agree just pick a date and let them go to town and just be along for the ride! Beach wedding sounds nice!
Glad you had a good trip! So since you're getting married now, when you gonna sell the jeep :D
OIIIIIIIO
12-01-2008, 08:54 PM
We got married on the beach in Maui...just immediate family present...too far of a trip for a bunch of family to make the trip...
If you want to keep it small...it might help to find an "exotic" local...
4bob4
12-01-2008, 09:10 PM
Yeah it's normal but I would put your foot down even if that means just reaffirming that y'all haven't planned any further than you have. Don't let them run away from you with it or you'll get there and wonder who's wedding your at because it won't be yours. Congrats man sorry we couldn't meet you this weekend had to get some car stuff sorted out (we got a new one).
JeepBSU
12-01-2008, 09:15 PM
had to get some car stuff sorted out (we got a new one).
Pics?
BamaYJ
12-01-2008, 09:35 PM
Congratulations on the proposal man!
Just be sure to not let family take over your marriage. If you sat down and talked to them about it i'd bet they would understand.
had to get some car stuff sorted out (we got a new one).
New thread?
In case I didn't say it before, Congrats!
not getting cold feet or anything, just....i dunno....family is stressing me out i guess. is this normal?
Yep. Normal. Go with her for the stuff you can like picking out a DJ/band, picking placesettings for the reception, caterers, etc. If you have input, give it. If you don't, just agree. Don't be too negative, remember that this is a big thing for chicks. It may be a big deal for you too, but generally men aren't as excited about every detail.
The only time I got grumpy was when we went to pick out tuxes. I don't like people fidgeting over me. So having to do so many pants/coat/tie changes plus have every one of them pulled, adjusted, etc. just drove me nuts. After about the third cumberbun (sp?), I was ready to get the hell out.
Considering it was a double wedding... and at my own house... with a reception in the yard... it was relatively stress free because I generally went with the flow.
rockyjeep
12-01-2008, 10:06 PM
yeah we're not doing tuxes and stuff. just beach attire so no sweat there. she has a time of year in mind, just no date which is cool with me. she been married once before, kinda one of those "marry my highschool sweetheart even though i know he's not the one" thing. her family tells me all the time "she got it right this time" :D
Since she has done the huge wedding before, and got so burned out on it, she wants it simple too. that was the best news i've heard yet! we so far have no disagreements on place/setting/time/attire/atendance etc. most of it we've said at the same time.
i guess since i'm the last kid (sis has been married for 7 years) my rents' are looking to help. I guess me and robyn already have it all "planned" per say, but just need to work on the paperwork and details.
*sigh*....this growing up bull**** is a pain in the ass. :D :p
why cant i go back to being a pirate?! sorty wenches and what have you....
Texas4X4
12-02-2008, 04:14 AM
why cant i go back to being a pirate?! sorty wenches and what have you....
im there right now and its really not very satisfying at all...
let us know the date. i might be stationed in kings bay, georgia and if i am ill easily be able to make it.
4bob4
12-02-2008, 10:03 AM
no sweat there.
Depends on time of year ;) It was 100 when Danielle and I got married a few folks almost passed out. (outdoor wedding with full tuxes, tan thank god and not black.)
she been married once before, kinda one of those "marry my highschool sweetheart even though i know he's not the one" thing. her family tells me all the time "she got it right this time" :D
She did dude. Danielle was saying just the other night how she's more fun around you, as she used to seem almost quiet or shy with ole' what's his nooogie.
4bob4
12-02-2008, 10:03 AM
Pics?
Tonight.
tater'sTJ
12-02-2008, 10:52 AM
Cograts there, Rocky. Try not to sweat what everyone else wants to do, it's you're wedding. Well, if it goes like mine, it's her wedding and all you need to do is show up. :)
rockyjeep
12-02-2008, 11:11 AM
She did dude. Danielle was saying just the other night how she's more fun around you, as she used to seem almost quiet or shy with ole' what's his nooogie.
aww...i feel like i should....hug you?...no? ok i'm cool with that :D :p
But yeah, i hear that a lot. i've never met the douche, but i dont think i need to. wedding behind bars loses its appeal. I just still think its so wierd how small the world can be.
for those who dont know, me and 4bob4 met up way before i started dating robyn. after i was dating her for a short time i found out that she and 4bob4 worked together for some time and were friends.
Jason Clark
12-02-2008, 12:06 PM
I may have already told you this before, but it is worth repeating again...ELOPE!!! Go to Vegas, get it done and over with, or else run away while you still have a chance:D:D.
Seriously though, Congrats and the best of luck to both you and your bride to be.
DrLewall
12-02-2008, 04:38 PM
for those who dont know, me and 4bob4 met up way before i started dating robyn. after i was dating her for a short time i found out that she and 4bob4 worked together for some time and were friends.
ok..now clear this up for us..you using him to get to her or using her to get to him? :D
4bob4
12-02-2008, 04:54 PM
Either way I feel used and dirty :( .
;)
tarheelkidd
12-02-2008, 05:38 PM
Congrats... I just got back from the honeymoon last week. Keep it simple and stress free. I like the idea of casual wear. We had a small wedding at a cabin that sits between two lakes. Short, sweet and simple...probably only 40-45 people total and most were family members. Do what your fiance' wants to do and ignore the others. As the other poster stated, it is a big deal to the bride. As you know, they do not play "Here comes the Groom" :D As long as she is happy wiht the wedding is all that matters.
MudSlut
12-02-2008, 06:18 PM
I feel your pain buddy. I got engaged the first weekend of november, before the week was over my fiance was wedding nuts! Had a date picked out and was calling me about it while i was trying to have a weekend away on a wheeling trip. I simply told her to relax and over the next few weeks we managed to set a date (July 25th 2009!), picked a place and everything else is falling into place as we go along. The only hard part for us is going to be setting a guest list as her parents have offered to pay for the wedding and we do not want to go nuts.
The only other issue we are having is our mother's are unhappy as we have decided to have the ceremony outside at the same place the reception is at and not in a church and not getting married by a priest. Something we agreed on a long long time ago, so thats what we are doing.
Try to enjoy it and if someone is getting into too much then just remind them this is your wedding and you guys want to do it YOUR way!
call me crazy I don't know but... if you don't set a date... you'll have nothing to work toward...
I say go ahead and set a date and let the planning begin. Also, say to do the planning between you and your fionce. DON'T let anyone else influence either of your decisions on the wedding.
Good luck and again... congrats... SUKKER!!! ;)
rockyjeep
12-02-2008, 06:46 PM
call me crazy I don't know but... if you don't set a date... you'll have nothing to work toward...
I say go ahead and set a date and let the planning begin. Also, say to do the planning between you and your fionce. DON'T let anyone else influence either of your decisions on the wedding.
Good luck and again... congrats... SUKKER!!! ;)
Haha! thanks bro!
We have a month in mind. The beach in late Feb will be warm and the spring break crowd wont be there yet. The condos should still be running the winter rates and such. Thats most likley what we'll do. Maybe Feb 2010. Me and her are supposed to have a talk about it...no biggie though. I'm game for just about anything.
rockyjeep
12-02-2008, 06:47 PM
Either way I feel used and dirty :D
You were used....you dirty, dirty tramp. :D
Wilbur
12-02-2008, 07:11 PM
Congrats Dave! You and the future Mrs. plan and do things the way both of you want it. It isn't a bad idea to set a few "soft boundries" early with both sides of the families. The day belongs to the two of you and no one else. Be kind, be patient, listen well, and always think before you speak or take action.